Modelling wet look leggings and suspenders

What if Being a Bitch is Your Kink?

A Man Called Alice Modelling wet look leggings, suspenders and killer heels

Discussing Kink Vs Fetish is a delineation I struggle to remember. Here’s how A Scottish Lass defined it:

Kinks are defined as something sexually non-conventional whereas a fetish is the sexual gratification gained from an object, piece of clothing or body part.

 

I’m pretty sure I don’t have any fetishes, but I definitely have some kinky feelings about dressing up (submissy describes this as enclothed cognition ) because the right outfit takes me to a different place sexually, it adjusts my attitude, usually to something more dominant. I particularly like fishnet and shiny materials for this. Wearing a latex corset or a strappy leather body harness, can evoke the required response!

When I’m dressed up in all the gear, for photos or for intimate moments, a different facet of my personality is given free rein. I am,  no sadist, rather what I enjoy is the power and the element of surprise. I have control, but with not intention to take it down the routes of pain or punishment. I’ve heard this is better termed as ‘topping’ than being a dominant.

 

Song: Daisy

Artist: Ashnikko

 

You don’t wanna see me bratty

Pet the kitty, call me catty

Make your man call me daddy

He talk too much, he’s too chatty (yeah cool)

Ceo, I’m savvy

Respect a bitch, I’m a maverick

Flexible, so elastic

But don’t you dare bend a bitch backwards

Fuck a princess, I’m a king

Bow down and kiss on my ring

Being a bitch is my kink

What the fuck else did you think?

The song which inspired this post was ‘Daisy’ which in August 2021 I kept hearing on the radio. Its tune is catchy but its lyrics made me prick up my ears (yeah, even the radio edit!). The artist Ashnikko is very much in touch with her own, edgy sexuality, demanding what she wants without being apologetic for her needs and preferences – I like that sassy attitude. When I was researching the lyrics I found an interview on YouTube in which Ashnikko explains that she invents a persona and then writes her song(s) and performs the music video from that fictional PoV. She’s used it as a confidence boost and has felt empowered by channelling that person’s attitude.

Fuck a princess, I’m a king

Bow down and kiss on my ring

It’s gonna hurt, it’ll sting

Spitting your blood in the sink

I’m crazy, but you like that

I bite back, daisies on your nightstand

Never forget, I blossom in the moonlight

Screw eyes, glacial with the blue ice

I’m terrifying

 

There’s a dominant element to Daisy’s fictional persona. Ashnikko envisioned her as a person who wears nothing but latex with a passion for the type of ‘glass’ wedges of the type favoured by pole dancers. Daisy is assertive (your man should call me ‘daddy’ even though she’s unavailable to him). A vengeful vigilante, she’s on a mission to wipe out (with a throat punch which would make her victims spit blood in the sink) rapists and others she deems ‘bad’, i.e. Daisy is taking out the trash. She does, however, enjoy stalking her prey, cat to their mouse. She’ll let them know they are in her sights by leaving her calling card: fresh daisies on their nightstand.

I’m no Cinderella, but I like the shoes

Big glass platforms, bitch, I’m choosey

Long blue hair, blue as a bruise

Only trust a fella for some light amusement

I’m no prey, but I am pursued

Pray for me, not on the churches pews

New dickstraction, can’t confuse me

Whiskey in my hip flask, nothing fruity

Fuck a princess, I’m a king

Bow down and kiss on my ring

Being a bitch is my kink

What the fuck else did you think?

Fuck a princess, I’m a king

Bow down and kiss on my ring

It’s gonna hurt, it’ll sting

Spitting your blood in the sink

I’m crazy, but you like that

I bite back, daisies on your nightstand

Never forget, I blossom in the moonlight

Screw eyes, glacial with the blue ice

I’m terrifying

Ashnikko visualises her powerful anti-hero as striking, sexy, an attractive vista, a person who can sometimes act as a distraction to men. She demands respect (bow down and kiss on my ring) who will weigh and measure a person (don’t dare bend a bitch backwards / screw eyes, glacial with blue ice) but if they are found wanting, she is going to hurt them – she’s terrifying! The artist at the time had long blue hair (like a bruise), reminiscent to me of Harley Quinn from the DC Comic strip Batman – who is kick-ass personified.

I’m crazy but you like that

I bite back, daisies on your nightstand

Never forget, I blossom in the moonlight

Screw eyes, glacier with the blue ice

I’m terrifying

La, la, la

La, la, la

La, la, la

La, la, la

I’m terrifying … (repeat)

[Daisy Video]

 

In the lyrics, Daisy claims her kink is being a bitch. Can you can relate to that? Some of us get off on being just a little bitchy, and others let the attitude pervade every aspect of our life, because they enjoy it so much. I try to confine my ‘bitch’ to the bedroom. A place to safely unleash it,  I’ll take the lead role and plan the teasing, the torment and the pleasure, deriving pleasure from being ‘in control’.

My Favourite Bitches

  • My own latex heroine Francesca Demont occasionally tries her hand at being dominant.
  • In the fiction series I co-wrote with Eve Ray,  her fictional headmistress Miss Ranson is depicted in a sadistic vein yet, despite her vindictiveness, she is the puppet of Catherine Spencer-Harrington, and others who manage to tap into her submissive nature.  Currently Eve and I are in the progress of working this saucy school-days saga for publication into an e-book. Watch this space!
  • Although Modesty Ablaze blogs and shares pictures in a humorous, tongue-in-cheek style, I’m sure her power-bitch side is what draws submissives to her for a dungeon experience.
  • Grateful thanks to A Man Called Alice for the header image, artfully modelling black wet look stockings and killer heels

When this post was originally shared in August 2021, it was linked with #4ThoughtsorFiction, #SeptemberSong2020 You can still visit to see what others have shared. Updated for inclusion on #mmmMonday

 

 

7 thoughts on “What if Being a Bitch is Your Kink?”

  1. I’m pretty much never a bitch, but I get how people who may not have power in other ways can get off on the attitude.

    I love the lyric about not being Cinderella but liking her shoes. *laugh* I can relate. 😉

    1. Well I admire you for that, it’s apparently meant to make you kinder to yourself if you don’t bitch about others. Yeah those shoes have something, dont they? – thanks for the comment

  2. I can’t relate to the right outfit making you feel more dominant. But I can relate to it making you feel sexy. I’m a big advocate of dressing for the role you want 🙂

  3. Sometimes, it seems to me that it is precisely such bitches that are the most vivid reflection of the female essence. At least, such women are always in the spotlight.

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