Teachers & Influencers


I had a few teachers at school who I liked, mainly because they taught a subject I enjoyed or did well at. A few I couldn’t get along with too.

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Some were just sour and strict in their demeanour while others, I suspect the trouble was a personality clash.


The teachers to whom I owe the greatest debt are those who instilled and nurtured my love of reading, because much of what I’ve learned in life comes from books. Text books, yes these have obviously played a part, but I’m talking about fiction. Getting inside someone’s head, or walking in someone else’s shoes is my favourite way to learn things – and books provide that opportunity. 


So I am grateful to my form teacher (the year I turned 7), who read to us on Friday afternoons. She introduced me to Clever Polly and the Stupid Wolf   and the concept of book reviews. Thanks also go to my headmistress. She invited a class at a time into her study where we sat on the floor while she read, by instalments, longer books: Little Katia and Watership Down. My secondary school English teacher had a daft manner and quirky dress sense but she effectively shared her passion for Dickens while neutralising my fear of the older language used in Shakespeare and Chaucer. Later I had a young teacher whose outlook was as refreshing as her enthusiasm was contagious.

My parents were my first teachers. As I grew up they taught me many things: to tell the time, to cook, identify birds and flowers, to save money, to sew. I needed their guidance on my interactions with the world: conflict management, sportsmanship (losing with grace), manners, patience, perseverance, punctuality. They set an example of a good work ethic, how to live together harmoniously and behave in a respectful, loving way to each other. My parents encouraged us to do things as a family, also giving us our own space to play, follow hobbies or read.


My adult children are now my teachers, although naturally it started the other way round! The world is evolving to a different place than when I grew up, so I’m grateful for their help navigating technology (phones, apps and computers). Attitudes are constantly changing regarding tolerance in social interaction and etiquette, younger generations are much more woke than mine, but communication with my kids goes a long way to keeping me up to speed.

Of course I must mention adult relationships and sex. Here my steepest learning curve was with my third partner, as I was only a notch on the bedpost to the first two. We learned things together. We took time getting to know: what we liked, each other’s bodies, which additional items were more fun. During our time together I read sexy books and men’s magazines to fuel my fantasies and find out what other folk did to get off, we enjoyed experimenting.

Once I met my husband, my sexual education continued, taking off in particular during my perimenopause when I began to read erotica on-line, which led to me purchasing more adult items and beginning my blog. Following other bloggers on-line piqued my curiosity. I was fascinated by the (new to me) toys they reviewed, kinks they shared and their honest depictions of scenes including corporal punishment, bondage and the necessary aftercare. Sex bloggers invited me to learn about sexuality and mindsets which differ from mine, spreading their lives and experiences before me generously, enabling me to observe and understand what it means to them.


I’m a blogger and a writer, and my skills of expression have improved since I began back in 2016 with my first story “Act of Vandalism”. An up-dated version of which is in Breaking Limits – an Anthology About Strong Women Letting Go. I uphold the advice that the best way to improve your writing is to keep doing it, challenging yourself with different word limits, writing to a prompt, following a style, but you could keep making mistakes. My teachers in this discipline are the readers who have given me honest feedback and constructive criticism. Some of these readers are also trusted friends who I’ve promoted to the dizzy heights of beta readers – they helpi me improve stories that didn’t end right, needed polish, or needed an additional or less content. 

I have real life editors, wonderful people prepared to publish my writing, of course they want to get the best out of me. I welcome their corrections and critiques, their advice is gold. I can always see how much my writing has improved from hints and tips they’ve shared regarding the construction of my prose or tweaks to my plotting, and this gets ploughed back into my future work.


Huge #SoSS thanks to: Francesca Demont, Deviant Succubus, 5ubmissy, Bibulous1, ML Slavepuppet, Sleepless in Erotica, slave sindee, melody, collared Michael, Canadian Erotica, a Man Called Alice, Knickers N Tights, Sweet Autumn Rose, Eve, PAJ Woode Tabitha Rayne, Jayne Renault, Elliott Henry, Nero Black, May Moore, AM Harding, Vlad Lioncourt, Jacques, A Guy in Panties, Kay Jaybee. Check out their blogs or their published work to see what they share.


Submitted for For Thoughts and Fiction & Snake Den A-Z:  Teachers



19 thoughts on “Teachers & Influencers”

  1. I LOVED Clever Polly and the Stupid Wolf too but most people have never heard of it. This was a lovely post to read and the way that you have written about the teachers in your life, parents, children, partners is such a touching take on it. Thank you also for the mention 😊

    1. Thanks missy – I like the humour in them. I’m glad you enjoyed my take on the topic and I salute you for both the support & the great source material you provide.

  2. Lovely post Posy – I am not a fan of Dickens though – so bleak. But admire his ability to create such vivid scenes.
    I think your parents were great teachers – the list u have written are very important things. Now a days many parents leave it to schools to do all the teaching where as i think it should all start and continue at home.
    Ty for mentioning me xx

    1. Thanks & you’re welcome May – so many things I ‘absorbed’ in my upbringing, I hope I’ve done a decent job for my kids. I’d always pick Dickens over Hardy – I find him more dreary!

      1. An excellent post Posy. I read it a few days ago but only now just getting round to commenting. I greatly enjoyed reading about the influences upon you, going right back to your childhood. And thank you for the support you have given me and my writing over recent years. You always get to the nub of the matter with your incisive comments. You are a splendid writer with Great Expectations. May your home never be a Bleak House and may your erotica always give me Hard Times. xx

        1. Aww Pons thank you – I don’t mind sharing when it’s appreciated. I like to offer mutual support and I love your witty comments. (thanks for the Dickens references!) x

  3. I love how you have highlighted your parents and kids as teachers too, as we learn so much throughout our lives, and not only from those who taught us in school. Lovely post 🙂
    ~ Marie

  4. You wrote about the importance of teachers in your life (in all forms, not just traditional teachers), which I completely relate to. I could write a list very much like you for all the people who have taught and helped me onwards and these people I’ll forever be grateful for.

  5. very nice post love how you listed the professional teachers and the ones we some times forget we learn from. i wish i had learned to love reading for me its often a chore. i do love many blogs not just for the sex and pictures but they way folks explain their lives and choices and how they get to where they are. I enjoy and read your blog and always look forward to your next writings. Thanks for the mention

    1. Thank you sindee, yes I liked the diversion I took too! It was going to be about actual teachers but that seemed a bit blinkered. Books have helped me through so much, but a love of reading comes from loving what you read about, so perhaps blogs with their ‘realness’ gives you more of that. Thanks for always being so supportive xx

    1. Hi Francesca, thanks for checking in – so happy you liked hearing about my various ‘life coaches’. I have a lot to be grateful for and the SoSS gang are contributors to that.

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