Legs in whalenet tights against wall

I won’t take it lying down

C.W. Discusses gaslighting, negative thought processes, loving yourself

Ohhh Celine Dion

Not my usual vibe (I dislike ballads but heavy topics can’t be dealt with in an up-beat way). Celine’ sings about finding strength when someone / something has been holding you down, making you doubt yourself, and they got me thinking.

It’s great when we have friends or family to support us, to provide a boost when something makes us feel bad, inadequate or criticised  – but not everybody has that. Those who have been seriously ‘gaslighted’ wouldn’t even believe friends’ uplifting words, they’re so weighed down and influenced by the negativity which is fed to them on a regular basis.

As a woman  I know we’re great at forming a support networks but we can be tough on each other too. Cognitive Behaviour Therapy taught me an important technique to halt self criticism: block yourself from entertaining critical thoughts  about others. This technique makes us pull ourselves up short whenever our subconscious tries to be harsh on us.

Heed Celine’s words, don’t take things lying down, stand up for yourself.

Use your legs to walk away from negative people, build others up instead of pulling them down. Strength comes from within and we need to work on our inner core of self belief. Loving ourselves helps us deal with whatever life throws at us – drama, disappointments, discord – all these things will seem less harsh with the passage of time.

Let’s be gentle, let’s be kind but let’s not waste our time or energy on those who don’t appreciate how awesome we are!

Oh, I didn’t mean to fall in deep
But I’ve no regrets
You tried to push me down, you tried to keep me possessed
I gave you my heart, you took the key
But now I paid my debt
It’s time I left
And I don’t need someone who makes me feel so bad
And I’ve just enough left to help me pack my bags
Yes, I have found something I thought I lost
I found me, I found faith, I found trust
You can’t take this from me
Can’t you see I won’t take this lying down?
And I can’t hear you when you speak your poison
Bitter words can’t hurt me now, I won’t take it lying down
All it takes is one bold move to change everything
All it takes is loving you to forget, forgive
But I’m having some kind of breakthrough
I’m ready to live
And I don’t need someone who makes me feel so bad
And I’ve just enough left to help me pack my bags
Yes, I have found something I thought I lost
I found me, I found faith, I found trust
You can’t take this from me
Can’t you see I won’t take this lying down?
And I can’t hear you when you speak your poison
Bitter words can’t hurt me now, I won’t take it lying down
I won’t take it lying down
I won’t take it lying down
I won’t take it lying down
I won’t take it lying down
You can’t take this from me
Can’t you see I won’t take this lying down
And I can’t hear you when you speak your poison
Bitter words can’t hurt me now, I won’t take it lying down
I won’t take it lying down
I won’t take it lying down
I won’t take it lying down
I won’t take it lying down
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Comments (28)

  1. Reply

    I know that sometimes I find it difficult or painful to walk away from negative or toxic people. However, after a few kicks to the balls, I get tired of their shit and have to say enough. I used to try and explain the hurt they caused me but when it was always turned around at me..again I said enough. Even a few years ago I thought I would lose something by cutting those folks out of my life but after thinking about what they could offer me it was all negativity. That made it easier to say goodbye. People can not change who their core being is. That’s my opinion.
    Thank you for sharing and showing your SB4MH support.

    • p0sy

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      Absolutely Sassy! I am a well-meaning person, so my default setting is to explain myself, my motivation, but this is wasted on many so now I step away – a new technique that I’m putting into practice.
      I didn’t even mean this post to be on this topic, but it’s pressing on my sub-conscious!

  2. Reply

    Self-criticism is an easy trap and impossible to avoid, but realization and to just say no is the key. I like your image today, Posy, very interesting. (and these ? I like ?)

    • p0sy

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      You’re right Elliott, so I’m retraining myself! Glad you like these boots!

  3. Reply

    I am so pleased u linked this up and very much am with you on this line
    “Use your legs to walk away from negative people, build others up instead of pulling them down. Strength comes from within and we need to work on our inner core of self belief”
    in particular…
    and you look fab in that photo – keep those legs walking…
    xx

    • p0sy

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      Thanks May – the blame culture has to stop, but we also have to protect ourselves. Glad you like the image – I feel pretty cool in these tights x

    • p0sy

      Reply

      Thanks Molly, I rather like striking this pose – my pilates teacher says its good for re-directing our energy!

    • p0sy

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      Oh thank you, I love the ‘chunky’ look – aggressive sexy not the dainty version!

  4. Reply

    A great image post and a strong message. I find it hard too at times to calm those thoughts but it feels good when you can stand up too ?

    • p0sy

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      Thank you on both counts, missy – it is a strong and important message, I’ll keep reminding you if you keep on my tail about it too.

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  6. Reply

    It’s always the negative thoughts that shout for attention. Learning to say no, to seek out and promote the positive thoughts is not easy but we should never give up trying.

    Nice leg picture. ??

    • p0sy

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      Yes the worst thoughts can be aggressive, but using this technique helps me keep them at bay. Thank you x

  7. Reply

    I often find it is about a balance. You can also end up becoming overly selfish and confident, and see everyone else’s behaviour as negative if all they are trying to do is maybe give feedback or set up boundaries. If someone is bad for your mental health, take a step away from them. But I feel that intention is important here. Sometimes it is necesary to look at ourselves and see where we are going. Because without admitting to our faults, we can not grow. And without growth, we are stuck. And feeling stuck is a very miserable thing to experience. I love this post of yours because it emphasizes how important it is to be our own biggest supporter, and that it is okay to choose ourselves, our well-being, and to be strong and confident about our skills! (also, sexy legs, woman!)

    • p0sy

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      Aww thanks for that comment Devie – it helps to moderate feelings. It’s always OK to choose ourselves and to try and boost our confidence, and your comment on my legs has definitely boosted my confidence. x

  8. Bee

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    I love fishnets, they’re sexy as hell but your words were powerful. There’s too much negativity around and it makes everything so hard.

  9. Reply

    There have been too much negativity around of late, which makes me want to carry the positivity out into the world. Strong words, and a lovely image!

    Rebel xox

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  11. Reply

    i’ve suffered from gaslighting. and now i’ve decided not to proceed with such individuals any more in my life. because our life is so unpredictable…

  12. Reply

    Use your legs to walk away from negative people – this could serve like a motto) You are awesome on this picture!

    • p0sy

      Reply

      Let’s do it Mary – it’s definitely a motto I’m embracing. Thank you!

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