Following on from my retrospective post thanking people, who knows what 2020 will bring, but let me outline my plans, so I’ll be less likely to renege on them. This post is submitted to Food4ThoughtFriday as the prompt is Catch up & Further Thoughts.
I’ll be at Eroticon for both days this year. How could I not come? I love its sociability – the rare chance to meet the creators of the sexy words I read online. I’m always educated and motivated by this conference, often humbled by the talent. There are some fabulous speakers lined up:
May & Inigo Moore
Secondly there are some folk I can’t wait to meet up with – Eve and I have made a loose plan to have fish chips & mushy peas at a great restaurant in Camden. Sweetgirl and Mr H – we feel determined to have a coffee/ drink together and I have the intention of saying a lot more than just “Hi” and “Goodbye” to Marie and Master T this year! I also plan to catch up with Calandra who I missed meeting on my visit to Taboo! in Brighton this summer – she will be representing Lovegivr so if her stand is near Tabitha it’ll also be simple to catch up with a sex-blogging bestie!.
During 2019, to inject variety into my blog and to help me when grief struck (making it difficult to write) I published several collaborations & guest posts. Gratitude for great content and support is due to:
Starcross : Shared!
His and Hers Panties : Aguyinpanties
For 2020 I intend to work with even more writers I admire, so I have planned collaborations with Deviant Succubus, PJA Woode, May Moore, Jupiter Grant (and there are others in the pipeline). If you would like to work with me – my DMs are open, I’d love to hear from you. I also have some photo collaborations planned with Tabitha, May & LSB so keep your eyes peeled for them too!
I have always enjoyed reviewing fiction and for 2020 I plan to extend my reviewing reach. Not only will I be welcoming commissions to review people’s writing, erotic & vanilla, but I already have some in hand:
Kay Jaybee : Yes Ma’am
Sex toy reviews have been on Pillow Talk’s back burner for a while, since my contributor Vampy Valentine stepped away. For 2020, instead of reviews, I will be writing erotic fiction with product placement of sex toys. I invite toy companies and bloggers to slide into my DM’s to make requests for this.
I’m delighted I got an improved ranking for 2019 in Chaturbate’s Top 100 : 42 (as compiled by Molly) and was listed in the Kinkly Top Sexbloggers Directory, hopefully the prestige will increase Pillow Talk’s visibility. I feel humbled and proud to have also been listed in several sex bloggers’ more personal lists and will be compiling my own for the start of January.
My “Interview a Blogger” slot will refresh as a regular monthly feature. For 2020 I’ve invited some awesome folks I follow on Twitter to sit in my black leather chair to answer probing questions. I will also continue creating #SoSS posts, because sharing is caring, but I’ll curate these monthly instead of weekly.
Photographs – originally I didn’t share them, then I did. In 2019 I got braver! In 2020 you’ll see less of my selfie stick! I will create images to illustrate my blog, but I’m aware of so many bloggers (May, Kissungura, Floss, Indie, Modesty, Molly, 5ubmissy, Eye, Lexy & Missy) who create innovative images or sultry poses, capturing light and balancing the composition – I can’t compete with the experts.
I may not participate in so many memes, my strategy going forward is to write more. It’s no secret that I want to see my work in books, so I plan to self-publish a collection of my short stories soon. After that, I’ll make a nuisance of myself promoting it until some copies are sold!
I intend to devote more time to reading, not just books I need to review. I feel my writing improves from reading longer works, but also for reasons of self care, I will lose myself in more books for 2020. I’ll admit to feeling a little stressed about my “duty” to read other blogs, which is not a nice feeling. I want to give back to my community, but with other commitments I sometimes spread myself too thin. I will still be here friends, cheerleading from the sidelines, but trying focus on things, where my previous approach was more erratic.
This is my last post of 2019, as I am off the grid for a few days, but I will use the time to plan a list of “go to” blog spaces, which you can read in January. Huge thanks to all my regular visitors & followers – without whom this blog would have just dwindled. Big hugs of gratitude to those who support me in practical and spiritual ways as mentioned in part 1 of this round-up post.
Thanks to Sexy Smut (Reddit) and Dirty Sexy Words, Reed James, Asrai & Slave Sindee for the regular re-tweets and promotions of my writing. Sharing and Caring. My hertfelt appreciation to those of you who offered a shoulder to cry on (via DM) during my tough times – you know who you are.
Sex bloggers, you are awesome. You continue to entertain and educate, humbling me with your positivity in times of struggles with:
Any battle you fight
I visit, I read, liking and commenting when I can. You are my tribe, with you I can be myself – a sexual being who discusses sex, thinks about sex, enjoys sex & self pleasure and wants to hear what others think/do on the topic too. Thank goodness for you all.
~ Happy 2020 ~
May it be the year in which we all flourish and censorship backs off!