Lingerie – I love It!

 

Brown lace bra and french knickers

 

Most weeks on my blog I do an #SoSS post to share links to other bloggers’ work. For a whole year I hosted an interview with a sex worker alongside these links.  I am still interviewing only now it’s once a month instead of once a week. (pace yourself Posy!) One question I have always asked is this:

What’s your preference – naked or “dressed up” for sex?  If dressed up, how so?

I ask this question because I’m aware I use lingerie as a ‘crutch’. I feel way too vulnerable naked, and to start off with (foreplay stage) I don’t want to feel vulnerable. I also feel sexier with underwear on. I have big boobs (uh-huh – you noticed!) and with that territory came the concern that they are droopy. Being a teen in the era when topless models were featured in mainstream newspapers (The Sun & the Star). They always seemed to have perky boobs and upward-pointing nipples. No amount of reassurance from various boyfriends has made me feel more confident about them, so bras give me confidence.

Anyway, enough about me and my relationship with underwear, let me share some of the answers I’ve had to this question in my interview slot, but you will see that the answers vary hugely and (when people elaborate) their motivations are fascinating.

 

Deviant Succubus

I only dress up sexy for play parties or pictures. At home I am often doing the lazy thing of no bra, a pair of black leggings and a bandshirt. Those kinds of clothes are easy to take off and therefore perfect for foreplay and sex! Honestly, my sex life is pretty spontaneous so I’d always have to be dressed up if that were my preference. But I love dressing up sexy for fetish events and for pictures, and can take hours to get ready for those! 

Starcross

Dressed up, although that state never lasts for long. It’s fun to get a tantalising glimpse of a partner’s body, or to tease them with, say, tight boxer shorts. Of course being dressed up is only enjoyable knowing that, at some point, you’re going to see one another naked.

Rachel Woe

Naked. Definitely. I love the feel of skin on skin. Perhaps if I had more disposable income, I’d make shopping for lingerie a new favorite hobby!

Barefoot Sub

NAKED!!!

Cara Thereon

Naked. No need to beat around the bush!

Emmeline Peaches

Does ‘decorated in the cosy embrace of a thick blanket’ count?

Nah, just kidding, I tend to go for naked or very minimal aesthetic complements. These would usually be a body chain, a faux leather harness, or a collar. 

Oh, a collar *melts*

Floss Liddel

Dressed up! I love all sorts from sexy lingerie to Latex. I’m a big fan of CFNM (clothed female naked male – or naked person depending on who I’m playing with), so my main drive is that I have clothes and my partner doesn’t. Usually I will try and wear something that I think will appeal to their arousal. Just for the extra element of tease.

Dr J

Naked, but with jewelry.

May Moore

I like dressing up for sex on a date night. Sexy or slutty clothes – heels – stockings – you know the look! There are plenty of photos on my site with me dressed in such a way.

Nicci Heydon

I love to feel good about myself and clothes are a huge part of that for me. Even if I’m working, so it has to be all business, I usually try to find office attire that at least shows me in my best light. And of course, what I’m wearing underneath is nobody’s business but mine. As for sex, I’m not a planner, so while I might well be wearing something lacy or stringy it’s unlikely to be specifically for the other person’s benefit.

Quinn Rhodes

Hmmm, naked I think? I like lots of body contact, and nakedness is fun. I often leave my socks on though – both because wearing knee-high socks makes me feel cute and subby, and because my flat can be quite chilly and I’m not a fan of cold toes. I do, however, love dressing up beforehand, in pretty lingerie, stockings, short skirts… basically anything pretty to entice whoever I’m playing with to rip it all off me.

Beatrix B

I love dressing up for sex. Naturally, lingerie, heels, hose, etc. play into the mix, but I don’t mind a bit of costume wear either. I’m a very creative person, so that trait tends to spill over into many facets of my life. Sex is one of them.

Nero Black

 

I’ll take what I can get but as anyone who’s seen my Instagram account will know, I do prefer dress up. By which I mean she dresses up for my pleasure. Unfortunately I don’t have the physique for ‘dress up’ (mens choices are quite limited IMO).  Even more unfortunately (for me) my wife thinks the same, despite dressing sexy when we go out she takes it off as soon as she gets home. Ditto for any underwear or lingerie she has, being of the opinion that she should be ‘enough’ for me and that she shouldn’t have to dress up in order get me hard. [It’s a damn shame because she still has the body for it and would look great in whatever you see me posting on Instagram.]

 

5ubmissy

I am nearly always naked for sex but what I wear or don’t wear will be entirely up to HisLordship. Sometimes he will request an item of clothing, or a specific ‘outfit’ but usually I am ‘au naturale’. If I want to feel sexy and entice him I will usually wear something rather than nothing. Sometimes I will dance or strip for him and I will select some lingerie that I feel sexy in, and usually add stockings and heels. The most I often end up wearing for sex is a blindfold lol.

 

I am hugely grateful to the bloggers, and other providers of sexy content who have shared their thoughts and opinions with me on my interview slot. I hope you enjoyed this ‘patchwork’ of opinions.

 

Visit #lingerieisforeveryone to see who else is participating in this fun & sexy meme

 

 

Comments (16)

    • p0sy

      Reply

      Thanks for that comment, that’s what I thought too! This sort of thing really feeds my writing as I love to know why people do what they do.

  1. Reply

    What a brilliant idea Posy and thank you for including me in your roundup. It is really interesting to see the different responses ?

    • p0sy

      Reply

      Ha ha, thank you, I am glad I can air some of my interviewee’s answers in a new way! Yeah, you’re not the only one!

    • p0sy

      Reply

      Thanks Lexy, when I thought of it, I wondered that I hadn’t done it before!

  2. Reply

    I really enjoyed the topic and variety of answers. Is it weird to start naked and get more, for lack of a better word, dressed as the event big goes on?

  3. violet

    Reply

    cute post, Posy! and we appreciate your “dressing up” – you always look amazing!

    • p0sy

      Reply

      Violet thanks – I love the excuse to do it more, your meme encourages me! xx

    • p0sy

      Reply

      I get that Molly, and from the images I’ve seen, you look gorgeous both ways too.

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