I was a little behind some of you guys in discovering the fabulous writing skills and enlightened thinking of Deviant Succubus. I think she began adding to the Wicked Wednesday & Masturbation Monday memes when I was writing rather than reading. Anyway, though I was slow to find her, I was very quickly intrigued by her back story, and I wanted to know more. She shares some great posts on mental health and self esteem issues. The photos she submits to the Sinful Sunday and LIFE memes always grab my attention but it’s her writing which really takes the crown! But I should stop fangirling so you can get to know her through the interview she kindly gave me.
- What made you decide to write on an adult/erotic theme?
I have been blogging on and off for many years, mostly personal blogs, and none of them in English (my mothertongue is German and I have lived in Sweden for 12 years). The last couple of years I had a blog for mental health advocacy which was fairly popular. I feel like I had never found my place or my niche though. My D/s relationship became a strong part of my life, and so did my discovery of kink. But none of the blogs I was writing were a good place to cover the kinds of thoughts I wanted to express. I discovered a blog or two covering an adult theme, found out about the weekly memes and decided to give it a go. It seems like I have found my place now and I can write about my thoughts, unfiltered. It is such a freeing feeling!
- What draws you to the blogs you follow?
While I appreciate a beautiful layout and an easy to navigate site, I really am a sucker for words. I love blogs that have long thought-through reflections about kink, sex, BDSM and D/s, relationships and mental health. I love when I can sense someone’s personality in what they write. I have always been someone who can relate most to the rebels and outcasts, so the blogs I most love do not necessarily fall into the famous and popular category. I also enjoy blogs where creativity shines through, may it be in exquisite pictures or wonderfully written stories and poetry. The best kinds of blogs, in my opinion, are the ones that are different, that show strength, individuality and creativity.
- List 5 words you use to search for the content you want to read/view
I usually don’t limit myself to any kind of keywords and I don’t do searches. I prefer to stumble upon content because a beautiful picture or a catchy title caught my eye. If I were to search, I’d probably search for: Submission, Masochism, Kink, Erotica and Body Positivity (I know that’s two words, but it is a keyword!)
- What is your favourite type of adult toy?
I am a poor sod so I don’t really buy a ton of adult toys, to be honest! But if I had the money, I would have a huge collection, haha! I don’t even own a proper anal plug, can you imagine? I have some things though, and the one thing I always go back to is the wand. I don’t even know the brand, it was a cheap buy off Amazon. Nevertheless, It does the job well!
- If you were sent to a desert island (with no power issues) name the adult item or film or book you’d take with you:
Oh! The aforementioned wand, for sure! My imagination can make up all kinds of stories and scenarios but I only have ten fingers to use! So I would definitely eventually crave another physical sensation.
- What’s your current sexuality? At what age did you realise this was the right ‘fit’ for you?
I am pansexual. My sexual orientation has always been a bit confusing to me. For a while during my teenage years I thought I was lesbian and for a couple of years I only dated girls. But then I started to identify with the bisexuality umbrella. About ten years ago I discovered the term pansexuality and I felt right away that that was me! I am attracted to people, not their gender, meaning that all genders and sexes can be sexually (and romantically) attractive to me. I am also sapiosexual, which means that I am primarily always attracted to someone’s mind, not their body. Intelligence and an educated mind get me off!
- What’s your preference – naked or “dressed up” for sex? If dressed up, how so?
I only dress up sexy for play parties or pictures. At home I am often doing the lazy thing of no bra, a pair of black leggings and a bandshirt. Those kinds of clothes are easy to take off and therefore perfect for foreplay and sex! Honestly, my sex life is pretty spontaneous so I’d always have to be dressed up if that were my preference. But I love dressing up sexy for fetish events and for pictures, and can take hours to get ready for those!
- Is there a kink or fantasy you’re yearning to try?
One? Just one? Many, way too many for a life-time, most likely, haha! Most of my kinks are related to BDSM, and so are the kinks that I would like to try out. I want to do way more rope play, I want to try out electro play, I want to see what medical staples and needles feel like. One of my fantasies has always been having sex with more than one person at a time, but not in a vanilla threesome way. I want to be shared/whored out by my Master. Oh, and I want to do outdoor sex. Can you believe that I have never had outdoor sex?
- Name a pivotal moment in your youth which may have set the path for your sex life:
This is such a difficult question to answer. I didn’t have actual consensual sex until I was 22, and even then, it was more of a vanilla hush hush kind of affair. Maybe I can answer this question by saying that I think that my interest in kink, BDSM, D/s and fetish is rooted in my childhood that unfortunately was marked by a lot of abuse. As in the moment where I actually discovered how kinky I am? A couple of years ago I started engaging sexually with my current partner and our first erotic hypnosis session opened up the world of kink for me.
- Name the fictional being or species you’d most like to have an encounter with:
Vampires! I mean, come on, what answer did you expect from a goth? Haha! I have loved vampires ever since I was a kid, and I wish they were real!
- You’re going to a party – if you could pick 5 ideal guests (living or dead) to meet and party with, who would they be? Expand a little on why you chose them.
I think I would have a pretty weird party! Well, definitely my grandfather. I miss him dearly and he was the most supportive person you could imagine. He was non-judgmental, hilarious and caring.
My second guest would be Stephen Fry. I love Stephen Fry. I want to be Stephen Fry. He is my rolemodel in so many ways and I very much wish I had his way with words.
Slavoj Zizek would be my third guest. He is a contemporary philosopher, and is quite the personality. I don’t agree with all that he has to say but I appreciate a lot of his approaches.
Then there is Marilyn Manson. He is incredibly smart and just different, I used to be a huge fan of his during my teenage years. And the last person would be
Schopenhauer, my favourite philosopher. He would probably be really confused, being from the 19th century and all that. I would love to watch those five people to have a conversation with each other. Yes!
- What would you choose for your drag queen / burlesque dancer name?
I think DeviantSuccubus works pretty well, doesn’t it? I would be wearing horns and do my best goth make-up!
- Sex needn’t always be serious – do you have a funny moment to share?
I had to think about this for a few minutes. Mm. I could talk about the time I got cum up my nose. Or when we couldn’t find the condom that had slipped off while we were fucking, inside of me! But I think one of the funniest moments was the time we did kitty play. I was to crawl to the kitchen to get something and on my way there, I met my cat. She looked at me and meowed! It felt like she tried to say: Hello fellow feline! It was hilarious!
- Sexting – love it or hate it?
I quite like sexting. I love people who are good with words so someone sending me only abbreviated terms and emojis would be a turn off. But engaging in a sexual flirty conversation that gets dirtier by the minute, yes, I love that!
- Which mainstream film depicts your favourite erotic scene?
There are two I want to mention here! The first one is from Interview with the Vampire, when Armand (Antonio Banderas) and Louis (Brad Pitt) almost kiss. There is such an overwhelming erotic sparkle in that scene, oh my! And then there is of course, the scene from Titanic, when Jack (Leonardo DiCaprio) draws Rose (Kate Winslet). Now that is one hot scene!
Posy says – I think you’re quite the romantic at heart Deviant Succubus!
- If you watch porn, do you have a preference for professional or amateur?
I generally go more for amateur porn. I don’t like staged scenes where people pretend to have fun. Also, the bodies in amateur porn are easier to identify with. I watch porn not to be turned on watching people do something with each other, but to imagine being one of those people. So what and who I watch needs to be relatable on some level.
- Nominate your favourite “adult” film or book
I don’t think I have ever watched a whole “adult” film. And I also have to admit that I have never read an entire “adult” book. I have a degree in literary studies and the books that I read are more on the high-brow side of things. I love erotic stories that people post on their blogs, though! I still have a recommendation: the Outlander series by Diana Gabaldon. There are so many hot steamy scenes in those books, and they will get your juices flowing.
Posy butts in again to agree wholeheartedly!
- Before you go, please advise us 1 sex blog which we should add to our reading list:
Jupiter Grant! She writes beautifully and her pictures are wonderfully enticing. .https://jupiterslair.home.blog/
My website is: https://deviantsuccubus.com/
My Twitter handle is: @DeviantSuccubus
My Instagram is: DeviantSuccubus
Posy says: Thank you so much DS for sharing your more ‘private’ side with me and my Dark Darlings!
This week my blogging has been rather challenged, I was on holiday somewhere there was a parental block on my internet connection! It meant I couldn’t access my site or any of yours during the day!
I was able to write and I could connect via Twitter, but no uploading content or enjoying other people’s posts until after 9.30 pm. Anyway – I made a few posts and thankfully I’d done the majority of work as judge for #LIFE week 20 before we left home.
Here’s what I shared on Pillow Talk:
Masturbation Monday: Ever had Your Skirt Fall Off While out for a Walk?
Wicked Wednesday / Flash Friday: Burning Fantasy
Lingerie is for Everybody: Sweetcheeks
Food for Thought Friday: Mistakes … I’ve Made a Few
I hope you enjoy the interview and maybe decide to follow Deviant Succubus or Jupiter Grant on her recommendation (I think she is a brilliant blogger too). Please share and re-tweet any links you enjoy exploring, so that our community’s great content reaches a wider audience.