Her Name is Ria and she Dances on the Sand! #SoSS
This week my interview candidate is Ria Restripo – a great writer and sex blogger and I’m a huge fan of her work. I did not know that, like me, she found her ‘voice’ by writing for Literotica. Why not read on, you’ll find out so many things about this talented lady and what makes her tick.
What made you decide to write on an adult/erotic theme?
To be honest, my early writing was very sexual–dark, but sexual. I gave a couple chapters to a close friend at the time and she described it as “twisted, but hot.” I was reading a lot of Anne Rice and Stephen King, and my personal life was kind of a mess, so it wasn’t surprising. I didn’t take my writing seriously then, so that manuscript went unfinished (like many, sadly) and is tucked away in a filing cabinet.
I kind of fell into writing erotica. While waiting to hear about a manuscript I’d submitted to a chick-lit publisher, I found the website Literotica. Many of the stories were hot, but most were poorly written. They had a volunteer editor program, so I signed up. This, of course, was a newbie writer mistake. I should have been hard at work on my next manuscript.
Anyway, since I was editing other people’s erotic stories, I thought I should write some of my own. I entered one of Literotica’s contests, and although it didn’t win, it got a lot of positive feedback. One of the writers whose stories I was editing introduced me to the Erotica Readers and Writers Association (ERWA) and the rest is a rather long meandering history. I think my writing has developed and improved over the years.
What draws you to the blogs you follow?
The content mostly. They are writers I admire and whose writing I enjoy reading.
List 5 words you use to search for the content you want to read/view
On erotic stories sites? Yeah, it’s probably not a good idea to share that. It’s usually stuff most people would consider taboo. Suffice it to say, I like older men/younger women stories, BDSM, voyuerism/exbitionism, and stories with unprotected sex.
What is your favourite type of adult toy?
I actually haven’t been into toys so much. Although, recently, I was asked to review a rotating rabbit vibrator that I absolutely love .You can read all about it on my blog.
If you were sent to a desert island (with no power issues) name the adult item / film / book you’d take with you:
Anne Rice’s Sleeping Beauty Trilogy or the movie Secretary with Maggie Gyllenhaal and James Spader.
What’s your current sexuality? At what age did you realise this was the right ‘fit’ for you?
I’m a hetrosexual female. I’ve always been that way. I was always attracted to men (older men), never to women. Even as a kid, I had crushes on older guys. When I was in high school, I masturbated quite often over a male teacher in his forties.
What’s your preference – naked or “dressed up” for sex? If dressed up, how so?
That really depends on the situation, so I guess I have no real preference–whatever works for the moment.
Is there a kink or fantasy you’re yearning to try?
Oh, that goes back to the whole taboo thing. There is something, but I’d have to find someone I trusted implicitly to explore it with.
Name a pivotal moment in your youth which may have set the path for your sex life:
I’m at a loss with this one. I can’t put my finger on a single pivotal moment.
Name the fictional being or species you’d most like to have an encounter with:
This might sound really weird, but a werewolf or wolf shifter–whatever you want to call it. It’s the whole primal, animalistic, mating thing that I find hot.
You’re going to a party – if you could pick 5 ideal guests (living or dead) to meet and party with, who would they be? Expand a little on why you chose them:
Jane Austen: I love her dry, almost sarcastic wit. I think she’d be a blast to hang out with.
Stephen King: Every interview I’ve seen with him, he’s an absolute riot! His Twitter feed is hilarious.
Dave Barry: He was a humor writer for the Miami Herald and a novelist. Again, I think he’d be fun to hang out with.
Joan Jett: She is the best chick rocker of all time. How could you not have her at a party?
Jamie Dornan: Every party needs some eye candy and I have a whole new respect for him after he sang in Fifty Shades Freed.
Since Stephen King and Dave Barry were (are?) in a band with other notable writers called the Rock Bottom Remainders, maybe they can form a special band with Jane Austen, Joan Jett, and Jamie Dornan. Now that’s a performance I’d love to see!
What would you choose for your drag queen / burlesque dancer name?
Lolita Davidabitch. Or is that already taken?
Sex needn’t always be serious – do you have a funny moment to share?
Sexting – love it or hate it?
Love it–with the right person, of course.
Which mainstream film depicts your favourite erotic scene?
Secretary. Maggie Gyllenhaal bent over James Spader’s desk as he gives her a spanking.
I also really enjoyed the pool table scene in Fifty Shades Darker.
If you watch porn, do you have a preference for professional or amateur?
No, it’s kind of a mix really. Sometimes amateur is hotter, but not always.
On a side note, why do people decide to shoot amateur porn in rooms that are such disasters? Couldn’t they clean up a little first? Sorry, I went off on a little tangent there.
Nominate your favourite “adult” film or book
Book: Anne Rice’s Sleeping Beauty Trilogy–although, I hear there is an addition to it that I haven’t read yet.
For film, it’s not really an “adult film”–more like an art house film–but I loved The Lover with Jane March, set in 1920s Indochina.
Before you go, please advise us 1 sex blog which we should add to our reading list:
Any of the blogs by Kayla Lords, especially Loving BDSM.
Thank you so much for sharing your more ‘private’ side with me and my Dark Darlings!
Ria on social media – the links:
Twitter: (@RiaRestrepo) https://twitter.com/RiaRestrepo
Let me guide you towards some great blog links which have grabbed my attention:
Mrs Fever talks wisely about the practice of never being fake
An outdoor image by Focused & Filthy which cleverly uses shadows and light
A 1-handed read about a pegging fantasy from Love is a Fetish
Ria’s tale about a young woman’s sexy discoveries about herself and her tutor
Mischa gives great advice for those researching and writing kink
JL Peridot’s skillfully drawn, sexy piece that is about so much more than what’s on the surface
Tabitha’s hauntingly sad piece tackling mental health
Molly’s wonderful image that encompasses maps and the female form, win win!
Finally I had a face-to-face with melody this week, having formed a friendship over DMs;
Read melody’s take on our meeting .
What I’ve been sharing recently (not very much as I’ve been working on my new blog design – hope you like it!)
Lingerie is for Everybody – A Letter to my Lover
Wicked Wednesday – If I was Taking an Erotic Photograph …
Lingerie is for Everybody – Pale Pink Panties