#SoSS with Some Smooth Southern Charm


I don’t know about you, my Dark Darlings, but I am planning a very chilled out weekend, so have listed a few yummy texts and pictures for your perusal, which I enjoyed during the week.  

I admit I didn’t visit as many blogs as a I usually do, but #sinfulsunday, #masturbationmonday and #wickedwednesday are always a rich source of tasty treats.

Spells and curses are interwoven in Floss’s tale   which was inspired by her wonderfully creepy : X Marks the Spot 
A wonderful image and quote from Violet : Screen Queen 
What the scent of smoke means to Jo  
Dr J shares a divine fantasy which utilises a favourite fragrance of mine, orange blossom 
Swirly gives a brave, honest account of how her trust was abused 
Elliott shares another diary entry from his naughty Brit pals Dave and Sue, and what transpired at a school reunion 
Quinn wants to please and be pleased, if only she’d worn a skirt 

I’ve also had a sneak preview of the post @Bibulous1 plans to share for Remembrance Sunday, so I urge you to look out for it and read it – it’s thought provoking and honest AF .

Having shared the jewels of my reading matter this week, which I hope you’ll read, enjoy and share forward, I’d also like to introduce you to John Brownstone. I met JB at Eroticon 2018 as he and his wife Kayla are involved in its organisation. I found him to be both charming and interesting, but read on and find out more for yourself.
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  • What made you decide to write a sex blog?

I had begun exploring the world of BDSM and as I delved into it came to find out that it was very involved. At the time I had come across a couple of BDSM blogs and I thought that by starting my own I could journal my thoughts and experiences.

  • What’s behind the title of your blog or your blogging “name”?

My name Southern Sir was given to me by a past submissive. At a time when there were a good number of arrogant and pushy dom’s she often told me I was a gentleman. Being I lived in the southern US she started calling me Southern Sir and it stuck.

  • Describe your blog in a nutshell:

My blog is an amalgamation of things; from my own personal observations, erotica, insights to the BDSM lifestyle, along with some erotic photos of both myself and Kayla.

  • How long have you been blogging on this theme?

I had to do some digging to accurately answer this question. (Guess they’re right the first thing to go as you get older is the memory, LOL). I began experimenting with this theme back in January of 2007 on a rather obscure journalling site. I migrated to Blogger, then to WordPress, and eventually self hosted.

  • What is your favourite type of adult toy?

Oh I love this question. For a very long time I have to admit to being a bit jealous of all the toys that are available for vulvas and not much of a selection for folks with penises. About a year ago I was able to try out the Hot Octopus Pulse III Duo and I fell in love with it. The Guybrator as they call it has a place of honour in the top drawer of my night stand. 

  • If you were sent to a desert island (with no power issues) name the 1 adult toy you’d take with you:

Most definitely the Hot Octopus Pulse III Duo

  • What’s your current sexuality?  At what age did you realise this was the right ‘fit’ for you?

My sexuality has morphed over the years. I grew up heterosexual and believed that was the only way to be. That was until I had a sexual encounter with another man. That opened my mind to new possibilities. I buried that part of myself for many years until I began exploring the BDSM world. When I joined FetLife I listed my sexuality as bisexual. I lost many friends from that and also took a shit ton of grief from others and I ended up removing it from my profile. IF I had to put it in a nutshell I guess you could say I am a demisexual heteroflexible.

  • What’s your preference – naked or “dressed up” for sex?  If dressed up, how so?

I do prefer naked when it comes to sex. I’m a very tactile person, I love touching my partner and I love being touched.

  • Is there a kink or fantasy you’re yearning to try?

There is one fantasy that has been at the top of my list for a bit now. A couple years back Kayla and I were lucky to have a threesome with a woman we had met. The experience was wonderful on many levels for all of us.
We both share the same fantasy of  a mfm threesome, not sure it will ever happen though. We have looked to meet someone on and off but it just hasn’t seemed to happen yet. 

  • Sexting – love it or hate it?

I have a love/hate relationship with sexting. When Kayla and I were in a long distance relationship we sexted constantly over the course of 18 months. Once we were together there were some occasional sexts when I still worked in an office. These days I would much rather flirt in person than long distance, through a phone.

  • Do you watch porn?  

I do watch porn and I often watch it with Kayla. That being said I much rather prefer amateur porn over commercial porn.
Commercial porn to me is too fake; what with the moaning, how everything goes perfectly, and everyone has a perfect body.
Amatuer porn (to me at least) is real. People ask for consent, they have real bodies, and just as in real life, minor mishaps happen.

  • Before you go, please tell us 1 adult blog (aside from yours) which we must add to our reading list:

Of late I have become enamoured of a blog called The Curious Mermaid. She writes of her exploration of her sexuality, delving into being kinky and traversing poly relationships with her partner.

I find her writing to be fascinating as she shares not only the successes in her journey but also the times things don’t quite go as expected. You can tell from her writing that she is processing, learning, and growing. 

You can find John Brownstone on Twitter @SouthernSirsPl or his blog Southern Sir’s Place, alternatively listen to his transatlantic drawl as one half of the podcast known as Loving BDSM with Kayla Lords.

Thank you so much for sharing your more ‘private’ side with me and my Dark Darlings!  

This week I have been rather preoccupied with writing, so my #masturbationmonday post was a link to something I’d shared previously, but had not linked it to a meme.  Mad Hatter’s Tea Party


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5 thoughts on “#SoSS with Some Smooth Southern Charm”

  1. I don't feel surprised at all May! Sometimes I like the 'beautiful' nature of commercial porn – I write along to the films on FrolicMe which is defintely porn of this genre and I love it! But I'll admit that sometimes I yearn for something a little more gritty, perhaps I'll have to scout around the web to tick that box!

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