Well my Dark Darlings, if you follow the links I’m sharing this week you’ll find a clutch of erotic yet spooky or supernatural themed fiction, because the memes this week have had a Halloween slant. 

Tabitha’s erotic description of a night walk has supernatural overtones 

Lucy’s stories about Julia the witch are highly erotic, steeped in myths and otherworldly lores 

Another tale by Lucy which contains tension and implied menace 

Marie has a tale of witches’ woodland activities around halloween 

Rachael weaves the sexy, poignant story of a ghost and a witch 

Violet’s supernatural tale follows Elizabeth as she gets obsessed with a real bad boy! 

Cousin Pons describes how his hero ‘gives absolution’ almost gallantly! (this is part 2, I recommend reading the first episode and also May’s version of Part 1 – the female PoV) 

Carla’s beautifully crafted tale is full of menace and lust, temptation and ecstasy!

Ina’s wicked dance reeks  of obsession and dark devotion 

My interview candidate this week is where the spooky theme ends!  

• What made you decide to write a sex blog?

To some extent, it felt like the logical extension of the writing and photography I was already doing! A way of bringing it all together in one place… It also came initially from a place of low physical confidence, and a certain restlessness about my sex life and the circles I was moving in. I guess I was bored, curious, a bit lonely, and not exactly in love with my own body – none of which was much fun. Sharing photos did me the world of good, as did finally exploring some of the kinks I’d kept secret for far too long. The rest is history.

• What’s behind the title of your blog or your blogging “name”?

Exhibit A was the first thought I had, because it felt very much like I was putting myself on display. As well as the visceral thrill of turning people on, I really liked – and still like – the idea of being studied or observed, as if I’m behind a glass screen or on a plinth. Of course Exhibit A wasn’t available by that point as either a Twitter handle or a WordPress URL, so the Unadorned bit was my way of trying to make clear that it was me I was putting out there. No clothes, but no filter either on my thoughts or my sexuality.

• Describe your blog in a nutshell:

Essays, fiction and photography! The focus fluctuates between the three, but the perspective I bring to them remains pretty consistent – sex blogging is a genre dominated by women, which is great, but it means that my voice is a relatively rare one. Because of that, I feel I have a responsibility to try and make my blog as thoughtful and insightful as I can – and to give the people reading it a different, honest take on male sexuality.

• How long have you been blogging on this theme?

This time round, I’ve been blogging regularly since September 2013 – so for a little over five years! I also had a sex blog (under a different name) from June – November 2005, around the time Girl with a One-Track Mind was really igniting the genre, but I closed that down after being doxxed by someone who managed to find out my real name. It wasn’t a fun experience! Thankfully I’m much less bothered by that now, despite having a significantly higher profile; I wouldn’t enjoy being exposed these days, but I also wouldn’t allow the threat of it to stop me blogging.

• What is your favourite type of adult toy?

I’m a big fan of butt plugs! Any anal toys really – I’ve written extensively and enthusiastically about putting things in my arse (or having someone else put them there…), and it’s something I’m always happy to explore with partners. I also really like our collection of (admittedly quite expensive) USB-charged clitoral vibes, though perhaps not as much as Liv does!

• If you were sent to a desert island (with no power issues) name the 1 adult toy you’d take with you:

Am I there on my own? If so, and if I get a good supply of lube to take with me, I’ll have the Godemiche Adam – in fact, I’ll have the Hercules edition! It’s thick and firm enough that I’ve never taken it in my arse, but with all that time on my own (and no need to worry about noise…) I figure it’d be good to challenge myself…

• What’s your current sexuality?  At what age did you realise this was the right ‘fit’ for you?

I tend to describe myself as straight, but with the caveat that I also love cock! The reality is that I’m probably a Kinsey 1.5, which I guess means I’m technically bisexual…but that’s a label I’ve never quite been comfortable claiming. I’m certainly hetero-romantic, but the sexuality bit has always been more fluid.

• What’s your preference – naked or “dressed up” for sex?  If dressed up, how so?

Naked! Not always, of course, but for me there’s nothing better than skin-on-skin.

• Is there a kink or fantasy you’re yearning to try?

At this stage, I’d say I’ve covered off most of the big ones! I do still want to explore MMF and swinging more than I have done. I have various fantasies involving another cock that still exist largely in my head, and there are also lots of sexy couples we’ve met through Twitter or blogging who I’d love to hook up with for a night of exploration.

• Name the fictional being or species you’d most like to have an encounter with:

For Liv’s sake, I might go with Batman for this one – as long as she can watch. And join in. Maybe take photos.

• Anal sex – Meh or Yay?

Big yay! Giving and receiving. It’s an especially big yay with partners who really get off on having their arse fucked. I’ll never forget the first time someone just gushed everywhere with my cock in her arse – very few of my sexual memories are hotter than that one.

• Sex needn’t always be serious – do you have a funny moment to share?

Most of my humorous sexual experiences have only really been funny after the fact! Having to flee from a London hotel after security walked in on an impromptu (and relatively PG-13) photo shoot in a top-floor hallway that had descended into something far more debauched was hilarious…after we’d made our escape. There have been similar breathless escapes, as well as the fairly standard ‘being walked in on’, which is never not awkwardly funny.

• Sexting – love it or hate it?

Love it! I’ve blogged about this, actually: Sexting. I’m firmly of the view that whether you’re in the initial stage of a new flirtation, or whether you’ve been married for 10 years, decent and well-judged sexting can add excitement to any relationship.

 

• Which mainstream film depicts your favourite erotic scene?

Hey, I’ve written about this too! I chose three scenes for this post – but if I had to pick one, it would be The Thomas Crown Affair, which is just a sexy film throughout, peaking with the dance scene between Brosnan and Russo, and the wild, joyful sex that follows.

• Do you watch porn?  

Very rarely. I’ve occasionally gone through phases where it’s featured more in my masturbation/sex life, but I’m not a huge fan. Occasionally I think I ought to invest more time in (re-)discovering decent porn – as with any art form, if you only skim the surface, you’re unlikely to find the things best suited to your tastes – so maybe watch this space!

• Nominate your favourite adult film:

I’m afraid I don’t really have a favourite! I enjoy Erika Lust’s work though, and her xconfessions series is really good. It’s also ethically made, so you can wank to it without feeling guilty!

• Before you go, please tell us 1 adult blog (aside from yours) which we must add to our reading list:

My wife’s, of course! Everyone should be reading The Other Livvy’s blog…if they’re not already.


Thank you so much for sharing your more ‘private’ side with me and my Dark Darlings!  

You can find Exhibit A’s blog here  Or you can tweet him @EA_unadorned