For the first time I did not get an interviewee lined up and ready by Friday afternoon! Sorry loyal readers – but don’t feel let down! I have spliced together an ‘Interview’ made up of answers to my usual questions from Sex Bloggers who have gone before! I’ve given each person a tiny strapline so that you know the ‘context’ from which they are answering.
I’ve decided to share only 2 post links this week – because they were so powerful that I don’t want to dilute their impact. Please take the time to read and digest the heartfelt content these bloggers have shared. Why not follow their blogs to see what May & Floss post on a regular basis, or check out Floss’ podcast which she hosts with her partner Bakji.
What made you decide to write a sex blog?
Nero Black (blogger & teller of erotic tales) answered:
~ There was no-one I could talk to about my issues – my ‘issues’ being that my wife’s libido seemed to have dropped to desiring sex once a month, if that, and I didn’t know how to deal with it. I figured ‘talk therapy’ was best but had no-one to confide in. I know women will discuss sex related matters with their BFF’s but guys don’t. They only times we discuss sex is to talk about what virile men we are and how many times we banged some women that night. Hence I use my blog as a way to vent about what’s going on in my head. Stress causes cancer IMO so I don’t want that.
What’s behind the title of your blog or your blogging “name”?
Cara Thereon (sub in a long-distance relationship) answered:
~ The thing that made me “Cara” was almost being outed to my family. Long story short, someone who was following my blog before I started writing kink tried to expose me. I needed to move, and am not super creative in other areas of my life, so I had to come up with a name. Cara Thereon is an anagram of my given name and has become very much who I feel I am in life.
Describe your blog in a nutshell:
Lascivious Lucy, who crafts wonderful erotica answered:
~ Smutty stories with a supernatural & kinky theme. One underlying rule I have for all of my stories is consent – it’s explicit and sexy.
How long have you been blogging on this theme?
Kilted Wookie (blogging creative) gave a very detailed answer:
~ My blog has been through a number of guises. Originally It was a site for just my stories. Then I started adding my photos, and then I started including thoughts and opinions. Then, in one of my blacker spells in 2016, I ripped the whole lot down.
First to return in late 2016 were my stories, under the banner Kilted Wookie Writes… There’s a slight irony there in that, apart from my #SmutMarathon assignments, I haven’t written anything since March 2016.
Kilted Wookie’s Photo Album began in February 2017 when I decided to take the plunge and join in with #FebPhotoFest. I still had the back-up of my old blog, so I was able to include almost all of my old photos. I haven’t missed a #SinfulSunday since my return and I also did the #FebPhotoFest again this year.
Finally, last April saw the birth of The Zen Nudist. This is where I share my thoughts and opinions on life, the universe and everything. It’s a mix of sex and mental health and is really simply somewhere I go to howl at the moon when I need more than 280 characters to express myself.
Although all three blogs are separate, earlier this year I took the step of merging them into a single site. As I said, the lines between the online versions of me are merging.
I also have a tumblr site: Kilted Wookie’s Sexual Artistry, where I share some of my own, more explicit photography, and reblog other images that I like.
What is your favourite type of adult toy?
Quinn Rhodes (a blogger who has recently re-invented herself) answered:
~ Without hesitation, it has to be clitoral vibrators. As someone who takes SSRIs, and struggles to orgasm because of this, and has vaginismus, meaning any kind of penetration is incredibly painful, powerful rumbly vibrations are my favourite thing! So clitoral vibrators (do wands come under that heading too?) are the only thing I can get myself off with, and thus my favourite.
If you were sent to a desert island (with no power issues) name the 1 adult toy you’d take with you:
Pixie Heart (a submissive living a poly life) answered:
~ No brainer, We-vibe Sync. Then maîtser could play with me, even from home!
What’s your current sexuality? At what age did you realise this was the right ‘fit’ for you?
Barefoot Sub (a relative ‘baby’ blogger) answered:
~ I have struggled with this for a very long time. I would class my sexuality as submissive. I love to have sex with men and women with a preference for cock. I am Sir’s slut, and love the way that I am free to be myself with him and his guidance, but without the power exchange I could almost class myself as a-sexual.
What’s your preference – naked or “dressed up” for sex? If dressed up, how so?
5ubmissy (a sub who lives & blogs about her D/s relationship) answered:
~ I am nearly always naked for sex but what I wear or don’t wear will be entirely up to HisLordship. Sometimes he will request an item of clothing, or a specific ‘outfit’ but usually I am ‘au naturale’. If I want to feel sexy and entice him I will usually wear something rather than nothing. Sometimes I will dance or strip for him and I will select some lingerie that I feel sexy in, and usually add stockings and heels. The most I often end up wearing for sex is a blindfold lol.
Is there a kink or fantasy you’re yearning to try?
Livvy Libertine, who recently got her blogging mojo back, answered:
~ I’d love to try pegging if I were given the chance. Something about being the one in charge (why having a cock puts me in charge I don’t know, maybe because I am naturally submissive) just flips my switches.
Oh-Tom-Starling (creator of erotic and unusual artwork) answered:
I would like there to be whole websites and escort agencies that particularly focus in on the kink of World War One nurses. That area of fetish is criminally undermined.
Name the fictional being or species you’d most like to have an encounter with:
Candy-Snatch (sex blogger & reviewer of adult merchandise) answered:
~ If you mean a fictional character, then one of my all time favourite books is Glass Books of the Dreameaters by G W Dahlquist. So I would love to spend an afternoon with the formidable Miss Temple and take an elegant afternoon tea whilst discussing her adventures.
Indigo Byrd (creative sex blogger) answered:
Anal sex – Meh or Yay?
May Moore (blogger and erotic author) answered:
~ I used to really enjoy anal but I had it too much with a past lover and now me and my man only venture there once in a blue moon. I have enjoyed it in the past though and the intense orgasms it helps you achieve.
Sex needn’t always be serious – do you have a funny moment to share?
Floss (bi-sexual who hosts a kinky podcast) answered:
~ My funniest moment was actually after the event. Myself and Bakji had just finished a really intense session, in a lovely bungalow that we were looking after for my Dad and his girlfriend. Perverts that we are we’d been filming it too, toys and clothes were everywhere. Bakji was naked, I was half dressed, ready to get some serious aftercare cuddles in, when we realise someone is at the door. My Dad and his girlfriend have come home about 5 hours early with no warning.
I promptly open the door a bit saying it’s very messy and could they come back in about 30 minutes. My Dad, who knows all about my kinky life, is being the dumbest he’s ever been and just keeps saying they don’t mind the mess. In the end I just declare ‘Bakji is naked and it’s messy.’ My Dad finally twigs, bursts into laughter and says they’ll go to Costa while his girlfriend gives him a bollocking for not calling ahead like she told him to. Afterwards she says to me ‘I hope neither of you are embarrassed, I couldn’t give a fuck what you do while you’re here, so long as you have fun.’ Funny and weirdly heartwarming!
Sexting – love it or hate it?
Elliott Henry (fiercely hetero) answered:
~ Absolutely love it. Only with the right person though. I do share thoughts and occasional thoughts and photos with friends, but actual sexting only a couple. I have a friend I hear from about every nine months when she is drunk and lonely, after a breakup I suspect. It’s intense and so much fun. Then I don’t hear from her for some time.
She was the first person I had ever done anything with on a phone, they were new for that purpose, first person I ever face timed with. I had skyped naked on a computer before, that was fun. That would be fun to do again: maybe one of your readers would like to try it sometime.
Which mainstream film depicts your favourite erotic scene?
Miss Jezebella (pansexual sex blogger) answered:
~ This will probably sound odd, but the first thing that came to mind is the sex scene from My Beautiful Launderette. I can’t remember when I watched it (I was young) but it left a big impression on me because it was the first film I saw that showed queer sex, and there was a massive tense build up to it. Watching it now the whole scene is really short and bizarre, with Omar’s uncle waltzing around with this lady while Johnny and Omar are fucking in the back. It seems I remember the impression it left better than the scene itself.
Do you watch porn?
Joanne’s Reviews (activist for body-safe sex toys) answered:
~ I watch a lot of porn when I masturbate and enjoy lots of different genres.
Joanne’s favourite adult film: A really old series that we used to rent on VHS when we lived in Germany and it is called Excuse Me. It features an old guy called Harry who approaches random women and asks them to go back to his hotel room to strip and model for him for cash. Its corny and he rarely gets his end away but it’s just so naughty and it definitely has a nineties vibe to the series.
Nominate your favourite adult film:
Emmeline Peaches (blogger producing epic sex toy reviews) answered:
~ Crashpad’s Guide to Fisting, because I like my smut to be educational!
Before you go, please tell us 1 adult blog (aside from yours) which we must add to our reading list:
Jerusalem Mortimer (a Dom & erotic author) answered:
Pandora Blake’s Dreams of Spanking blog. A lot of the posts are commercial, promoting products, which is fine, but sometimes she rants on matters more related to politics and censorship, and that’s the reason I’ve nominated it.
I admire Pandora Blake enormously, I think she’s a heroine and general Good Thing.
And to finish off, one of Oh Tom Starling’s stunning pieces of erotic art:
This week I have shared a 3-part story using the #MasturbationMonday & the #WickedWednesday memes: A MF romance between an older woman and a younger man.
Mind the Gap (Part1) (Part2) (Part3)