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#SoSS is here again, and for the bank holiday weekend  I have lots of links for you plus a brilliant and candid interview with male blogger (a breed sadly in the minority in our corner of the internet).  

Jayne discusses infidelity and her sexuality and writing as therapy 

New Girl Bianca tells us about a rough, sexy session wearing her new strappy lingerie 


A post in which the Captain discusses relationships and the importance of loving yourself 

Floss rescues an injured photographer and he shows his gratitude!  

The Pink Seam publishes the diary pages of CassidyX who teases older men with her ‘underage’ looks

There was a story writing duel about tacos!  My preferred entry was Helen’s …

But ET Costello’s story was only just pipped to the post!  Do visit his ‘shiny new’ site! 

A delightful continuation of Asrai’s FF tale of sexual exploration 

A sexy surprise encounter for Jeff with his best friend – loved Scandarella’s old record shop setting! 

Steeled Snake investigates what she wants and gets from collaboration 


BibulousOne is always  honest and open in his posts
He has built a reputation for sharing every aspect of his CP kinks, inviting his followers to join him on his journey of self discovery.  Read on to find out more insights into the real B1!
  • What made you decide to write a sex blog?

Without realising it, I’d been stuck in a rut with my kinks; same girl, same session once every month or so. I visited Las Vegas and met a Mistress there who completely took me apart. I went back 3 days later and let her do it again. On my return I resolved to really explore just what my kinks were. The experiences I had seemed so extreme I started writing about them. A friend encouraged me to try one as a guest blog. Girl On The Net ran that post and the next one and suddenly I was a sex blogger. My own blog followed a few months later! The notion that I have a sex blog still takes me by surprise!

  • What’s behind the title of your blog or your blogging “name”?

The blog “PainAsPleasure” does what it says on the tin I think.
BibulousOne was originally BilliousOne but I went off that. A Bibulous person is one who enjoys alcohol to excess. I’m not as bad as it makes me sound.

  • Describe your blog in a nutshell:

Descriptions of sessions with professional sex workers, where I play as dominant or a submissive; musings on life, the universe and everything; the occasional attempt at erotica.

  • How long have you been blogging on this theme?

Two and a half years

  • What is your favourite type of adult toy?

For use on me, I’d have to say the cane, though I recently bought a two tailed whip for Elita that is such a special challenge.

For use on someone else: A crop. You can tease with sexy, stingy little taps or cause someone real challenge with a crop, and everything in between.

  • If you were sent to a desert island (with no power issues) name the 1 adult toy you’d take with you:

Tricky. I have a lifetime of hurting myself and I think that could become destructive if I was on my own too much

  • What’s your current sexuality?  At what age did you realise this was the right ‘fit’ for you?

I’m heterosexual, though it turns out that I’m broad minded enough to enjoy playing with a man in the room and happy to be touched by him. D/s wise I am more masochistic than submissive though, in the moment I can let my Mistress own me entirely. But I’m a switch and I am increasingly comfortable as a Dom. It used to be a role I played but I understand that as a part of me now.

  • What’s your preference – naked or “dressed up” for sex?  If dressed up, how so?

Happy with either. I recently wore a leather bondage harness for sex in a dungeon and that felt good. Very sexual, very in touch with the darker side of myself.

  • Is there a kink or fantasy you’re yearning to try?

How long have you got? I used to say I wasn’t into role play but over the last 6 months or so my blog tells a different story.

I have a yearning to be the victim of a highly ritualised, punishment scene. I would be naked in front of 2/3 people in robes. The sentence is read out, I’m prepared for the punishment, strapped slowly to the frame, checked by the doctor………… bloody hell, I can feel my pulse race just writing about it!

  • Name the fictional being or species you’d most like to have an encounter with:

I found the Natiri, the long-legged blue race in the movie Avatar, hotter than I was probably supposed to!

  • Anal sex – Meh or Yay?

Yay, well pegging when it’s me on the receiving end. Milder forms of anal play if I’m the Dom. 

Elita brought our first anal session up in conversation the other day. She’s still embarrassed that it happened. She’d had the impression from the person who introduced us that I was super experienced though, in reality, I was a complete novice. Still one of the most intense kink experiences I have ever had.
You can read about it here: 

  • Sex needn’t always be serious – do you have a funny moment to share?

My first one to one session with Lilly, in a dungeon. She was terrified, clammy with fear. I grabbed her hair to position her how I wanted her; being all Domly Dom about it! What I didn’t know was that she was wearing a hair piece and it came off in my hand! The relief of that laughter is what made the rest of a very intense first session possible for us.

  • Sexting – love it or hate it?

Not really done it in truth. I like to chat online with Lilly after a session and will sometimes pay for her time so I can do this

  • Which mainstream film depicts your favourite erotic scene?

Jamie Bell laying it on with a riding crop in Nymphomaniac Vol 2. There’s something authentic about this scene. The brutality of it is really stunning.


  • Do you watch porn?

Some. I tend to stay away from Femdom Porn, though that is my main kink. I don’t want to watch some fat, middle aged bloke getting beaten up – it’s too close to home. There is very little well made porn in this genre. F/f spanking and dungeon scenes would be a favourite I guess.

  • Nominate your favourite adult film:

Not sure I have one to be honest. Ages ago the realspankings site made a full length movie about three girls taken on as servants in a country house. It has beautifully shot and very intense spanking scenes. That was super hot.

  • Before you go, please tell us 1 adult blog (aside from yours) which we must add to our reading list:

Instead of recommending a specific blog, I’d like to suggest a category of blogs.  Take a look at some writing by sex workers.  You’re reading Posy’s blog so you likely have an interest in writing on sex.  This much maligned group of people make their livings from sex and they are often articulate, intelligent or funny.  I find their perspectives on a whole variety of things fascinating.

Thank you so much for sharing your more ‘private’ side with me and my Dark Darlings!  Follow BibulousOne on Twitter [@BibulousOne].

This week I shared a 2 part story which featured a D/s relationship where the sub was happy to let her master push her boundaries [anal sex and humiliation], while he indulged his voyeuristic streak.

Tainted Love (first taste)  for #MasturbationMonday
More Tainted Love for #WickedWednesday

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