Friends with Benefits!
Hello my Dark Darlings – this week (the first Saturday of 2018) I am going to share some more of what has had my engine revving all week! I may repeat myself some weeks – hard not to when my fellow blogging friends keep coming up with the good stuff! Thanks to this handy hashtag meme #SoSS I keep discovering new writers with fantastic new content (photos, poetry, thoughtful pieces and my favourite erotic short stories). Please click on these links and see if you agree – you may discover some you wish to follow.
Isabelle Lauren : Progress (an opinion piece)
Nero Speaks : A Sex Story (part 1 of a sexy adventure) and this great retro picture
Life of Elliott : An Afternoon Off (defintely a NFSW diary piece)
Asrai Devin : CG Night 1 (a sexy series you’ll want to binge on)
Cara Theron : Date night & check out A Sacrifice of Blood
Morag’s Moist Musings : (Discusses her first experiences with a vibrator)
Girl on the Net : (Does a good mistress need to keep her training up to date?)
Shot of Erotica : (Lots of erotic short stories, my favourite so far is Room to Play)
Godemiche : Fantastic dildo making company, and this one was custom made for DivaFloof!
My most important share this week is the following interview with my new ‘Twitter’ friend Diva Foof Jo. She writes awesome reviews of sex toys and is the ‘in house’ blogger for a great kinky store Latex Leather and Lace. Jo is earthy and honest and loads of fun, and this comes through in her reviews of adult products and her Twitter feed @DivaFoof.
- What made you decide to write a sex blog?
I didn’t mean to! It wasn’t really an informed decision. I wandered down the rabbit hole and never came back up for air. I first started doing reviews for Cara Sutra and then progressed to basically become Latex Leather and Lace’s resident blogger and I now lead up their reviewing team as Chief Foofster.
- What’s behind the title of your blog or your blogging “name”?
I was originally Gemini Joanne – which is basically my star sign and my name but it wasn’t really a brand. I used to say that my foof was a bit of a drama queen and that I didn’t like any shabby shit. The word foof refers to vagina as I hate the word vagina for some reason, have a huge problem saying it – I’m so childish it hurts – and so came the day when another tweeter said I should be called DivaFoof.
- Describe your blog in a nutshell:
Honest. Sometimes too honest and a little bit sweary.
- How long have you been blogging on this theme?
I’ve been blogging since September 2016.
- What is your favourite type of adult toy?
That’s a difficult one because they all have different properties:
- Dildo – Godemiche Adam 8”
- Wand – Doxy 3
- Clit Vibe – Tango
- Clit Suction – Satisfyer Next Gen 2
- Vibrator – Ann Summers Moregasm Range
- BDSM – Nipple Clamps
- Butt Plug – Yet to discover
- If you were sent to a desert island (with no power issues) name the 1 adult toy you’d take with you:
- What’s your current sexuality? At what age did you realise this was the right ‘fit’ for you?
Heterosexual. I’ve never really been attracted to the same sex as myself, whenever I watch porn with a woman in, I’m imagining myself as her – that said, there are some women whose bewbs do funny things to me. I’ll quite happily oggle Cara Sutra or CoffeeAndKink’s bewbs any day. I have no problem in suggesting that another women is attractive and I love to tease and flirt but generally it’s not to take it any further. There’s part of me that terrified that I wouldn’t know what to do! J
- What’s your preference – naked or “dressed up” for sex? If dressed up, how so?
I love to dress up in order to be undressed. Naked is how it ends up if its planned but generally morning sex starts of naked anyway. I love both. I have various versions of dressed up; I’ve done cosplay dressing as Harlequin to dressing up in a corset to dressing as normal with something sexy underneath or just simply dressed in matching underwear with stockings and suspenders and a kimono. It all depends on what your partner likes and the mood that takes you.
- Is there a kink or fantasy you’re yearning to try?
There are a lot of kinks out there that I haven’t tried but I don’t have a particular yearning. I guess edge play fascinates me and I’d like to get more experimental with anal but to be honest it’s all about who you’re with, if you can get the basics right and they are explosive- the fantasies and the kinks are the cream on the top.
- Name the fictional being or species you’d most like to have an encounter with:
There’s also part of me that wants to say Christian Grey because I’d like to show him what a real woman is… and also sit down with him and tell him he’s not a dominant or a sadist, he’s got more problems than that! Also, Jamie Dornan porn. Mrmrmrmmmmmm
Meh. I’ve only ever done it with 2 partners. 1 partner hurt me because tbh, we didn’t really know what we were doing and the 2nd partner hadn’t done it before but I had, and he wanted to try and his response in the end was ‘oh …. That wasn’t what I thought it would be” … so yeah. Bit of a let down I guess.
- Sex needn’t always be serious – do you have a funny moment to share?
I moved into my new flat back in October, and it has a walk in shower with a rainforest shower head – it basically looked like *the place* for shower sex, it was all there. I’d never tried it before, it got to December and I’d been eyeing it for the best part of 6 weeks. I thought it was all set out for us (including somewhere to put my foot higher up). I tugged him into the shower with me but it was too hot, I was trying to avoid the water on my head (I have red hair and it might start to look like someone had given me a head injury) kissing, massaging with shower gel, getting clean and dirty all at the same time. We finally got down to business and discovered water is a badlube; he was trying to push himself inside me but it was so difficult, til finally he was in…. and SQUELCH! Pulling himself out and pushing himself in just sounded like wet and messy farts. We ended up laughing so much we had to stop. I’ll give shower sex a miss from now on!
- Sexting – love it or hate it?
Love it. It’s such a precursor to sexiness later on. My most favourite is when they are with family, like when I sext; The fella’s sat trying to have a cosy family meal and I’m messaging photos of me dressed in a corset, stockings and suspenders. Land speed records may have been broken in the past!
Also, when you’re in a long distance relationship (whether it be 2 hours down the road, 2000 miles apart, or travelling and working so you rarely get to see each other) the sexual connection you can get form sexting is great for maintaining the closeness. Also, if you know they are touching themselves because of what you’ve said, that’s even hotter.
- Which mainstream film depicts your favourite erotic scene?
it’s James Bond, I think it’s Spectre or is it Skyfall? the one with the saucy shaving scene? Where she shaves his beard with a cut throat razor. Uuuumppppphh Now I’m going to have to go watch them both to find out which one it is, but if you know which one, do leave a comment!
Yes. I like to use it for ideas. Weirdly. Just with less of the pretending for the camera and more of the enjoyment.
- Nominate your favourite adult film:
Erm? I’m not sure what you mean by adult film? Certified 18? Porn? Help!
- Before you go, please tell us 1 adult blog (aside from yours) which we must add to our reading list:
: She’s hotness personified when it comes to plus size lingerie and confidence. She’s also cool for sending questions or queries to and not afraid to give me a kick up the backside when needed! She also has amazing pink hair!
Thank you so much Jo for sharing your more ‘private’ side with me and my Dark Darlings!