What made you decide to write a sex blog?
I’ve always been a big fan of sex, however after the last couple of years studying part time, working full time and trying to fit life in between those two things, my sex drive has been almost completely extinguished.
Although I still have and enjoy sex, it’s the actual desire/wanting it that’s the problem! I spent a long time online trying to find out how to fix the issue, however I realised much of the advice has made the issue really medicalised, when it’s in fact a really normal thing that millions of other women experience. I’ve found that not many people talk about it- it’s perhaps considered shameful or embarrassing to not want sex. So I started a blog exploring my struggles with my lack of sex drive to help raise awareness of the issue.
What’s behind the title of your blog or your blogging “name”?
I came up with a million different names that were all a bit silly, however I wanted something that was empowering and suggested that your sex drive could get better. So I decided on Sexponential: the word exponential means increase, so hopefully I’ll see some sexponential growth in how much I want to have sex too!
Describe your blog in a nutshell:
It’s part diary, part what I’ve found helps me, as well as (hopefully) a collection of other women’s #sexdrivestories which show there’s no normal type of libido and often it varies throughout our lives!
How long have you been blogging on this theme?
Only about two months, so I’m very new and still finding my feet and voice. I’ve been on a steep learning curve already!
What is your favourite type of adult toy?
One of the amazing things about becoming part of the sex blogging community is that I’ve been exposed to so many toys I’d never have dreamed of before! My hands down favourite is always the Hitachi Magic Wand… it’s SO powerful!
If you were sent to a desert island (with no power issues) name the 1 adult toy you’d take with you:
I mean, the Hitachi is just my choice over and over again!
What’s your current sexuality? At what age did you realise this was the right ‘fit’ for you?
I’m in a relationship with a man at the moment, which I think will last a long time, however I think I’m more of the thinking that you fall in love with the person rather than the gender, so I’d say I’m open minded.
What’s your preference – naked or “dressed up” for sex? If dressed up, how so?
Defintely dressed up. I prefer anything that leaves room for a bit of tease. So a t-shirt on, a lacy bralette, some thigh-high socks… it could be anything! Once I have a bit of money I’d love to buy a corset and some suspenders to spice things up.
Is there a kink or fantasy you’re yearning to try?
Hmmm, so I read an amazing post the other day by Girl on the Net about knickers… so many things to do with them during sex! I really like the idea of them being stuffed in my mouth, sounds rather kinky to me.
Name the fictional being or species you’d most like to have an encounter with:
It would have to be Pedro de Valdivia from the novel “Ines of my soul” by Isabel Allende. He’s strong, smart, dangerous, and I just LOVE the saucy relationship between Ines and Pedro.
Anal sex – Meh or Yay?
If I’m relaxed enough and horny enough, it’s a big yay from me!
Sex needn’t always be serious – do you have a funny moment to share?
One of the first times I had sex with my boyfriend we had to leave in a rush and couldn’t find the condom. I thought it’d disappeared underneath the bed covers and I could retrieve it when I came back from my weekend away. Needless to say, said condom popped out into my knickers during a long train journey back home… gross but hilarious!
Sexting – love it or hate it?
I’m rubbish at expressing myself in bed – I’m so awkward, and this extends to sexting as well. I never know what to write!
Which mainstream film depicts your favourite erotic scene?
Probably the library scene in Atonement… a dangerous quickie.
Do you watch porn?
Yes I do. I would love to start exploring feminist porn films though, lots of people have recommended them to me!
Nominate your favourite adult film:
I have no idea! I don’t think I’ve ever watched a full on adult film. I’ll add this to my to-do list! Any recommendations welcome!
Before you go, please tell us 1 adult blog (aside from yours) which we must add to our reading list:
I really enjoy Girl on the Net (see my answer to the kink question!)
Thank you so much Elle for sharing with me and my Dark Darlings!