In March I wrote a 2-part story featuring a couple getting frisky on a weekend away in Paris. This little prober, which is part of the ‘no frills’ range from Lovehoney, had a starring role for the bedroom action in part 2. It is an ideal beginners toy for anal fun, and I use it as often in my solo play as when the OH and I want to have a wild time. It doesn’t cost much [£9.99] and we’ve had so much pleasure from it that I needed to recommend it to my Dark Darlings and thought it would be fun to give a personal insight into how it can be used.
As ever if you want to agree, disagree or share your own dark antics with toys, my readers and I would love you to comment below!
For solo play I love to use the wider smoother end as a slim but slippery dildo to tease myself with when I am concentrating more on clitoral or nipple stimulation, yet I want to feel the delicious addition of something sliding in and out. Sometimes I find I reach orgasm quicker if I don’t stretch and pound my pussy with something big or something which vibrates; In particular, if I’m reading erotica or watching porn to become aroused, instead of foreplay. On such occasions I am not edging myself to a higher plateau of orgasm, rather I’m indulging in a quickie!
Try something new
Anal sex has been a taboo area in the past for many people, but now the enlightened are finding that it enhances sex and masturbation in many different ways. My advice is to start off gradually with small toys made of flexible material, do not jump to big, girthy, unforgiving toys too soon, as this might lead to pain instead of pleasure.
Equally importantly I’d suggest using lubricant to smooth the way for the toy. There are lots on the market, and silicone based ones seem particularly good for anal use, but if you are at all concerned about damaging what your toy is made of/coated with, then use water-based lube.
Thirdly I’d suggest that the anal passage is cleansed before play as this will help all participants feel more relaxed. This doesn’t have to be humiliating or clinical (unless that is your kink!) and the douches work very well, being easy to use standing in your shower or over a bath/bidet.
For men, the stimulation of their prostate gland is possible through anal play as it surrounds the neck of the bladder and the urethra. As I’m not a guy I can’t tell you what it feels like, but I would definitely recommend discovering your ‘p’ spot for increased pleasure!
For women, the sphincter muscle throbs during orgasm, and so the presence of a prober or an anal plug at this stage increases the pleasure from the waves of her orgasm. These are powerful throbs for sure, the smaller butt plugs often get pushed out when I cum! Another bonus for us girls is, with something being used anally there is a feeling of fullness, which is pleasurable in itself, but also the vaginal cavity looses some space, so we feel tighter! Win win I say!
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